By now you’ve probably heard of the SUNY Stonybrook study that was featured in a 2015 New York Times article about the questions to ask in order to fall in love with anyone. (Many of the questions appear here on WBQ.) But what you may not know is that the study separated the deep questions into three tiers of increasing intimacy. Participants started with Level 1 and made their way up to Level 3. This question right here is straight out of Level 3. And I happen to think that it’s one of the deepest of all the Level 3 questions. The deepest of the deep! To answer this question you have to 1) talk about something that you never share with anyone, 2) admit that you actually have a desire to share this thing, and 3) concede that you currently don’t have anyone in your life with whom you are comfortable bringing this thing up. Daaaang! Now that is next level. It almost goes without saying, don’t open with this question. Gotta build your way there. Let us know how it goes!

Source: The question bank from the 1997 landmark study out of SUNY Stony Brook on Interpersonal Closeness (famously discussed in 2015 in the wildly viral New York Times article: “To Fall In Love With Anyone, Do This” )

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