NYC? Boulder? Madrid? City of choice can tell you a lot about a person and their hopes for the future. This question is a door. You might get to know what kind of setting energizes a person. You might learn about family members and the importance of proximity. You might discuss what’s not to like about the city you’re in at that moment. This question feels very approachable while still offering depth.

Source: The question bank from the 1997 landmark study out of SUNY Stony Brook on Interpersonal Closeness (famously discussed in 2015 in the wildly viral New York Times article: “To Fall In Love With Anyone, Do This” )

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